Thank you for clarifying this. As I read it, I realized that I always push the third bucket into the second without realizing it. Now, seeing that there is a time and place to just simply heal and be, even while maintaining the curiosity, but not pushing myself to grow, evolve, learn through the experience right then. Agreed that I wish I could have seen this so clearly when younger, but learning at 74 is still a wonderful gift so thank you.
Fascinating. It took me a few days to read, but every day I found myself looking forward to the next chance to continue. It’s full of insightful observations, deeply inspiring, and truly encouraging on the path. Thank you so much. 🙏🏻
Such a thoughtful article Cort. Its interesting that you make the connection with hormesis. We need some stress to grow, to make us more resilient, but not too much that we go into overwhelm.
In her book "The biology of Trauma", Dr Aimie Apigian makes the same distinction between manageable pain and discomfort and overwhelming pain and discomfort. She calls the latter trauma. Trauma is not an event that happens to you, it's what happens inside of you, when you don't have the capacity or resources to deal with the what's happening your body goes into shutdown; alive but barely alive. Its an insightful read. And like you, she teaches us to become more aware of what state we're in. As you point out in your article, each state requires a different response. Knowing our states and knowing what responses or behaviours are appropriate for that state helps us to self regulate, grow and heal. We are truly remarkable creatures: all life is. Thank you for this insightful read.
Perfect reading for today... I am sitting on the edge of overwhelm and am working to be curious. Your sharing is inspiring.
This would have been a good framework to know when we were all much younger....
right?!
Great life lesson Cort
Thanks 🙏
Thanks for sharing!
A little bit of discomfort is advantageous because it is manageable. Big discomforts overwhelm.
Knowing the buckets does seem valuable. Good lessons that I wish I knew when I was 20.
Me to. I'm 80. Beginning to figure some things out.
Beautiful 🙏 thank you
Merci ! 💗
Thank you for clarifying this. As I read it, I realized that I always push the third bucket into the second without realizing it. Now, seeing that there is a time and place to just simply heal and be, even while maintaining the curiosity, but not pushing myself to grow, evolve, learn through the experience right then. Agreed that I wish I could have seen this so clearly when younger, but learning at 74 is still a wonderful gift so thank you.
Spot on. A lot of the life lessons I have learned on my own are being described here, in a way I couldn’t articulate.
Fascinating. It took me a few days to read, but every day I found myself looking forward to the next chance to continue. It’s full of insightful observations, deeply inspiring, and truly encouraging on the path. Thank you so much. 🙏🏻
Well done.
Such a thoughtful article Cort. Its interesting that you make the connection with hormesis. We need some stress to grow, to make us more resilient, but not too much that we go into overwhelm.
In her book "The biology of Trauma", Dr Aimie Apigian makes the same distinction between manageable pain and discomfort and overwhelming pain and discomfort. She calls the latter trauma. Trauma is not an event that happens to you, it's what happens inside of you, when you don't have the capacity or resources to deal with the what's happening your body goes into shutdown; alive but barely alive. Its an insightful read. And like you, she teaches us to become more aware of what state we're in. As you point out in your article, each state requires a different response. Knowing our states and knowing what responses or behaviours are appropriate for that state helps us to self regulate, grow and heal. We are truly remarkable creatures: all life is. Thank you for this insightful read.