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Super interesting post. Very useful distinction. Thank you (although intrigued where you sit on use of psychedelics in a healing environment - so used alongside therapy techniques and within a structured thereapeutic setting. Both from what the research says, but also as very experienced practitioners of meditation).

States - Mixture of huge relief & excitement to discover I was autistic at the age of 49. Layered on top of burn out, deep desire to be the best parent and husband (like lots of late diagnosed autistics had a lot of lovely cptsd mixed in there - lots of emotional dysregulation, although never at my daughter - in front of her though, lots of tiredness etc). Found Thich nhat han/plum village/way out is in podcasts and over time Yongey mingyur rinpoche (and cort - you and your colleagues training on joy of living really is a lovely contribution to the world...ty).

Traits currently cultivating. Equanimity (currently on level 2 transformation and equanimity), but also kindness. Very taken by your dharma talk conversation around your findings around innateness of kindness, but also something around finding that kindness was more central than mindfulness (although that seems somewhat simplification of what you said and also seems so much more nuanced around intention).

Skill - my biggest driver is being the best dad ever to a young daughter. Equanimity is probably biggest skill i want to develop - i still mask very heavily, i can get tired and that is where i'd love to still be strong on equanimity - it becomes such a habit that even when tired i work from a place of kindness and compassion (or at least recapture ability very quickly).

Thanks so much both for your contributions to this world of ours. My sense is you may be very humble people, but thank you. And also for bringing science so closely to these incredible wisdom from thousands of years ago - feels the world needs this more than ever.

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A good and very useful distinction between states and traits. 🙏

I've been meditating since 2009 (middle age) - although informally meditated without knowing what what to call it since childhood.

What state inspired you to begin this journey?

I was in a state of total 'burn-out' at the start of 2009 after a highly stressful career spanning 30 years - and felt despondent.

What trait are you cultivating now? I have been cultivating living the brahma-vihara's for the last few years - i.e. loving kindness (I also view this as no ill-will towards anyone); compassion; appreciative joy and equanimity.

What skill do you most want to develop in the year ahead? the above to continue to be developed in equal measure as they are feed each-other.

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